A lot of the posts I could relate to and decided to look up narcissistic a little further. If you find yourself in a narcissism relationship, you can first recognize what you have chosen and reflect on the unconscious motives that might have led you to choose such a partner. I do the same and I'm in the bad books! I guess I just must accept that she will do and be what she wishes, and if she wants to say that she doesn't care how other people feel about her - I hope she believes it, because I don't seem to be able to. Trying to get her to speak with someone, because her judgement is compromised when it comes to the kids. This may feel like being a doormat.
No empathy, no understanding, doesn't take his responsability. Loneliness with someone is far worse than being alone without someone. Love yourself a little…start right now today. Believe me, I was and am there. He sold her car and most of her stuff before the funeral cremation had a new girlfriend really, a lover from his office in the house in a month. Narcissists take great pleasure out of knocking you down to your lowest because it gives them a sense of power and control. This is what he did to me one time a two years ago, I cut down a small tree that grew in a spot by itself in the yard that was to close to the house.
While I have no legal advice, I'm more then happy to at least chat if you want the company. It is amazing how hideous he has been to hang on to the money. I calmly told him to be out by the weekend. He plays the role of doting father whenever we have court and now, I have to bring him the baby every single day! I am so akin to you and your situation! If they suddenly show up anywhere near you, as if nothing has happened, ignore them. My family live 15000 klms away, I cant tell them. I will never for the life of me understand what motivates a serial cheater.
This man niceness may only last one week or less depending on the mood or the full moon. Remember: thinking for yourself and the health of your children is not selfish. At any time your spouse supports you or does something unselfish, reinforce that behavior with praise so they will want to do it again. Now that he is trying to stop drinking, he is moving on to other woman instead of putting our home back together. Your partner had an agenda.
Sucked her in to his lies just like he did me. My sons are all vert happily married, as I kept my unhappiness hidden from them, the only time we did fight was when a few times he never came home tell the next morning. Hope has just about all gone. His constant criticisms about everything I do, how I look has been very wearing on me. He has called me crazy a number of times. They think it has to be done their way and they have full control of everyone they are undoubtly the most self centered people and have no sympathy of others! These tactics fool others who end up not believing the victims. Narcissists are masters of making you doubt yourself and the abuse.
Rated how well get life was going by the number of likes. If I look at him wrong or the tone in my voice is anything less than happy and bubbly, an argument will start because he is offended. Many narcissists are opposed to even the idea of therapy, so getting him to go with you to see a counselor may be nearly impossible. How can people face and overcome their own narcissism? He sabotaged the completion of my college degree. Literally, he's always been verbally abusive but he took it to a whole different level when the tables where turned and he started paying the bills rent. But as the article states, when she got jealous or hurt she lashed out and would say some of the most hurtful things. Everything has to revolve around him, he subtly started criticizing my taste, my clothes, my body.
Build and maintain a strong support system. In moments like this I feel like dying. But it was not enough. We are in Ga, so the oldest can go live where he wants when he's 17, Defacs has come close to putting him away, because he refuses to do what they say he's going to do, if he hurts them anymore even emotionally, they will, the state head of Defacs is tired of him, I turned him in to the state capitol, senators office and they made Defacs get him away from the boys, Narcissist are very sick and abusive with no remorse for doing so. They got me in serious debt from constantly spending my money while keeping theirs. Still, I feel sometimes this deep need for her to somehow admit she was wrong or take all the bad stuff back. I have a lot of good qualities and talents but felt there was always more to life then life on the ant hill same traffic, same nose to the grindstone and so on.
It is difficult for me to get a divorce because in my country, I will have to prove his cruelty. Talking is just exhausting with this man. He always has to be right and then twists it that hes not that way. He confessed what he did to me. I have 2 wonderful teenage kids who love their Dad and would be devastated if we parted. He gets angry if i mention things he has done that are hurtful but apparantly he has never hurt me and its all my fault. Or when the catty best friend from middle school becomes the conniving co-worker in the corporate world, employing underhanded tactics to? My spirit dropped very low and I felt like I couldn't climb out of it! Those who threaten the female narcissist in any way whether it be through their success, appearance, personality, resources, status, desirability or all of the above must be extinguished, while those who are obedient will be kept around until their resources have been sufficiently depleted.