His mood can switch very easy. It'll probably stay that way for awhile though because the thought of approaching guys that I like is the scariest thing in the world. It is imperative that you surround yourself with supportive people to prevent returning to the relationship. I miss the man I thought I knew. But I was only as happy as I knew how to be.
In our society we like boxes—we like someone, we hate someone, something is good, something is bad—we rarely consider nuance. Since the person has already showered their love upon you, it will be hard for you to believe that they are abusive. Why will they still abuse you, even though they begged to come back, and said everything would be different this time? It is dangerous to look for treasure in the spaces where the sociopaths live. When transitioning out of an abusive relationship—especially if it is not your first abusive relationship—you have to reconfigure everything you thought you knew about yourself and other people. The once happy go lucky, and oh so funny and charming man I was, became a silent, tense, and miserable person.
It took a long time for me to simply realize she was abusive, and then even longer to heal from it. I was your number one fan. We had bad times but we had our good times. What if they're like you? Most disturbing are the times she insists on an apology for an imaged harm I have done. That is usually where the truth of this person lies — as opposed to their words.
So sad please know it's not true. I was insecure and you saw that as the perfect opportunity and ran with it. You're probably going to go back. He claimed he didn't realize I was asleep and even mused that I helped him remove my panties — though I don't recall that at all. And that evaluation was from how I remember her at the age of 30.
I gave you the opportunity for us relationship. Slapping, hitting, insults, pinching, forcing you to have sex — these are all abusive behaviors, and you do not deserve to be treated this way. I had some car troubles that same day and needed to replace some big parts in my car. My mouth became the reason for abuse. In my experience, most people who end up as supply or targets or victims or codependents have a pre existing susceptibility to something the narcissist can sell. You would be just as angry at your father as I am Unwilling to compromise, no sense of proportion, same old reaction. Attributing intent is attempting to lay a foundation for reason.
So many words of wisdom here. I lost all sense of time, which made the crying unstoppable. But I want to give space and visibility to those of us who survive the abuse and live in a continuing state of seemingly conflicting feelings, trauma, and healing. You mentioned wondering if you need some therapy. I never imagined that February 11th would be the official start of the worst year of my life.
She would threaten to go back to her 2nd ex husband because he wanted her back. I am a successful professional man who makes good money and never treated my wife poorly and encouraged her and paid for her to go to school while giving up any free time I had so she could do an activity. In my experience, they were, which makes things easier. It's hard and confusing to deal with. She had a story for all of it! It hurt that she triangulated love with her 2nd ex-husband and threatened to leave me for him. The kids hug and kiss on me and I cant explain to them why I see them so little.
This can happen if we support each other. Or would you better off out the other side where you are now and begining a new life, another thing - mr. This site is so valuable for that very reason. When your texts to me went unanswered and your social media accounts were blocked from viewing mine. Your partner had these traits and faked love in front of you. I took it like is normal too.