I am not saying forgiving him i impossible, bc I think it's necessary for you to be able to move on from this relationship. Advice: I would meet up with him and talk to him about everything. If he is that bad of a drinker, whats going to stop him from getting all drunk again and maybe taking someone home with him? So then he ended up bringing a girl back to the condo we were all staying at!!! Doesn't mean he is speaking the truth. Until we had a big argument last week. Second, I would ask him more about the context surrounding the kiss, how long did they kiss, did he know her etc.
Losing him due to some stupid misund … erstanding is a waste. But, she now has issues with trusting him, which isnt that surprising. I need to know why her and not other girls who have tried. Really its up to you though. I would also like to add that by the point in the relationship that this happened, we weren't getting along very well, mainly due to the mania I was experiencing.
I would stop generalizing from your one incident. She still has flash backs sometimes but they are stronger than ever. I process them slower and this has always been the case for me. Do you think I should let it go? There are a lot of jerks out there, that is true, but three years of an absolutely beautiful relationship thrown away over an alcohol induced accident that he ran from and then ran to you with a confession. And I advise her to reflect on her own feelings why she isn't. Welcome to the Forums at Psych Central! I suppose what im saying is though i dont know for definate what the solution is for you, i do know what doesnt work.
I know that he did the right thing by removing himself from the situation before it got out of hand but I'm having a really hard time dealing with the fact that he kissed another girl. Funny thing is, it seems to have balanced us a bit. I take it by kissing you mean a sexual kiss on the lips, like a couple would share? Up till now he didn't know that dancing and alcohol could lead to him being caught unaware and kissed. Do not waste our time to be with someone who does not respect our worth. Most likely the girl confessing her feelings just caught him at a moment where he pitied her.
Tell her bad things about him and get the guy out of her interest. The thing is: Guy will ask something about any fysical actions a girl will ask: do you have feelings for her, or something like that. But he says he has no recollection of it and has deleted her number. I understand that my behaviour may have led to this, however he understands what he did was his fault too. This is a different person. If you are having trust issues with your boyfriend now as a result of this, that is completely normal. Another answer: If he is cheating, he doesn't care.
Because of your past, and the understanding the two of you had, it is going to take a lot more work to again be able to trust. He promises it won't happen again. He always says that he just wants me to be happy. He has always wanted an equal relationship. I know he shouldnt of cheated but it happened and then once he did he realized he has had what he wanted all along. We are just a great match. Listen to your family member because chances are they are telling the truth and you should be able to trust them, and they are trying to help you.
We do forgive and forget the problem that appeared during our relationship journey. Do not be afraid, you have got to do this. He was drinking, he was caught off guard, and it sounds like the moment he realized what he was doing he stopped immediately, left and admitted everything to you. I feel less inclined to snoop since, because I realise that it was this behaviour that was causing him to be pushed away. I'm upset that it happened yes, but I've been cheated on before that went waaay past kissing and that incident completely destroyed me. You will also need to know your worth better. He was even talking about getting a puppy and a general talk about engagement rings yesterday.
I want this to work cos he's good to be with and I've been happy so far On the other hand I'm a bit confused cos…. About an hour later he had spoken to his parents and they said it was up to me to have to be able to trust us again and they were rooting for us. She can go back to trusting him, because thats what she wants, it just unfortunately doesnt happen overnight. I and many others have done things drunk without even thinking about them. That's up to you really.
Many men will come up with any excuse to justify this behavior. Especially after you shared a laugh at it this time, what's to stop him from going all the way next time? If he slept with this girl would this be a different story? Many men will come up with any excuse to justify this behavior. And after you find the right person, there are to make sure that both of you want to fight for the relationship you have. . He was just away for work for 6 weeks I visited him 3 weeks ago for about a week and the last night they his coworkers were there they went out to a bar and while at this bar my boyfriend was dancing with a girl which is fine-he and I both agree that dancing is fine and when then were done dancing they were all hanging out chatting and she leaned over and kissed him, and he kissed her back. And this rltp has been different than a lot of my others because I never have to wonder with him.
It's not like him to do this again? There are a lot of jerks out there, that is true, but three years of an absolutely beautiful relationship thrown away over an alcohol induced accident that he ran from and then ran to you with a confession. I wish that my gf had talked more about it with me, what ever you do dont just try and ignore it, it wont go away. He sounded really sincere when we were talking after he got back home. The way I dealt with this problem was by making the guy like me. Now that I'm not talking to him he's freaking out calling me 15x a day. I am pretty sure that most of us can know it directly whether he has the intention to cheat from us or not from his body language. Probably best to move on and don't get involved until they've proved themselves.